The other day, I was passing through one of those quaint East Village gardens on a sunny afternoon and paused at a small patch of wildflowers that seemed especially happy about the warm weather. These flowers were about 10 inches tall, bright yellow, and literally quivering ...

As a therapist, I get asked a lot about angst and anxiety; what it is, how to avoid it, how to stop being anxious. We therapists do tend to study anxiety quite a bit, but I’m actually motivated to write to you about anxiety for an additional reason. Can I share a secret ...

I’m in love with my smart phone. There; I said it. “Love?” You might ask. “Really?” Really. The other night, I couldn’t find my phone. It was time for bed, and my phone was nowhere to be found. I tried calling it from my ostensibly obsolete landline, but since ...

A few days off over the long weekend break helped me find perspective. Taking time away from my normal hectic NYC routine to be with friends and family provided me with a chance to step back from it all, and consider everything from a different angle. I welcome these ...

How often do we ask ourselves if our behavior or the behavior of others is normal? The more important question is what does one infer by the idea of “normal”? What is normal anyway and if we are not normal then what are we? Normal has become a very loaded concept, ...

We have all had run in’s with friends, colleagues, family and significant others. Misunderstandings, clashes, frustrations and [] are an inevitable facet of our relationships with one another. Sometimes, if we are lucky, these end with an “I’m sorry”. But that ...

Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy, is a solution focused, goal orientated form of therapy. One of the most common questions therapists get asked in their initial meeting with clients is “How long before I get/feel better?” So, how long before clients actually do ...

The first few sessions after you accept you are going to werq at therapy rather than wait for the magic pixie dust, there are still remnants of being cynical, but you’ve decided to give it a try. You yearn for the instant solution but you wake up with the realization ...

You think you have a great connection with someone. You wine them, dine them, steal a kiss at the subway stop. Everything is going great. Or so you think. From nowhere, the dreaded radio silence. Maybe this is a trait enhanced on the New York dating scene, where dating ...

A batting average, in its simplest form, is the number of successful hits, divided by the number of attempts. Practice makes “perfect” but what happens when striving for perfection prevents us from practicing? Many children of baby boomers were brought up to believe ...

I have a contentious complainer that lives inside my head, who is really good at pointing out everything that is “bad” about everything. When my inner critic is the only inner voice I listen to, I feel grumpy, reactive, stuck and judgmental. Sound familiar? It turns ...

March is Women’s History Month. According to the Women’s History Month website, we are “paying tribute to the generations of women whose commitment to nature and the planet have proved invaluable to society.” When I think of women’s history, I also think about ...

Holidays are supposed to be fun, right? Getting away from it all, to discover a new locale is said to broaden our mind. When you get out of New York City, however, you sometimes find yourself somewhere that necessitates the use of a car. Perhaps nowhere more so than the ...

As shocked, heartbroken and horrified as I was last Wednesday morning at hearing the news that Donald Trump was to be our next president, I also had to quickly find a way to talk about it with my children, my students and my clients. As the week wore on and I sat with ...

Anyone living in New York would agree this is one of the most fast-paced, aggressive, competitive and impersonal cities in the world. Out on the sidewalk, most of us New Yorkers impatiently swerve quickly in and out of pedestrian traffic, jammed with clueless, camera-wielding ...